We loaded up the car with all the goods needed to successfully have a baby. Having done this once before, we learned from our mistakes and brought ALL necessary items that would keep everyone happy for three days. I also had to plan for Charlee, which was new to me because she isn't away from me that often but mom, Greg, and Mackenzie took good care of my baby. I told mom I would let her know when they should come up with the new big sister.
As we drove, I was surprisingly calm and only discussed horrible outcomes for half the ride, the other half was how Charlee was going to handle having her world flipped. Gavin continuously reminded me Charlee and I would be fine and every now and again would add that this baby was a girl for sure.
IU Health North
We both tried to be better at taking pictures this time so we were "on it" as we drove up to the hospital to welcome our second child.
My calm, comforting, loving, patient husband driving the crazy, hormonal, worried, huge 39 week pregnant lady.
and we have a baby...
haha, let me explain.
The nurse came back in at 11pm and said I was dilated to 3cm and was still 50%. She gave me more cytotec. I told her my contractions weren't picking up on the monitor because they were stronger and starting to feel uncomfortable, but I was going to try to sleep through them. She said she would be back at 3 and if I was the same Gallagher wanted to start Pitocin.
I woke up at 2:15 and couldn't go back to sleep through the contractions. They were every five minutes and lasted for about 30 seconds. Gavin was snoring so I was going to let him sleep. I thought I could just make it to 3am for the nurse to check me but at 2:45 I was uncomfortable and they were starting to hurt pretty bad. I hit my call light at 2:50 because I just couldn't wait 10 minutes. The nurse (Elizabeth) came in and said she would check me and I was still 3cm but about 70%. I told her I was ready for my epidural because I knew it would take a little bit to get it. She hooked up my IV (I had to have a bag of fluid in before my epidural). I'm not sure if it was when she checked me that it started to be extremely unbearable, or right after but she must have knocked something into action, because I was starting to get tense and nervous that I wasn't going to get my epidural in time. She helped me up to go to the bathroom and I'm not kidding, it took me 10 minutes to get there because my contractions were coming much faster now. Gavin was up at this point because I think he knew the shit was starting to hit the fan and I'm pretty sure he knew that his ass needed to be up. I think he helped me to the bathroom and back. He saw that I started shaking uncontrollably and remembered that that happened with Charlee when I was in labor "for real"... also known as Megan cant even talk anymore. I made it back to bed and my sweet nurse had already called the anesthesiologist to let them know I was ready for them. She then started squeezing the bag of fluid to get it in faster because I was looking at her like, something is going on.
The smallest movements were killer. I got to the side of the bed and waited for the
FINALLY... a little relief from the horrid pain. They got me laying down and I kept telling the anesthesiologist that I could still feel a lot on my left side so she is tilting me and moving me over to my left so the medicine could work by gravity. She is priming the tubing and I feel a "pop" and remember saying "I think I just peed myself" and my nurse looked up and I was having a contraction... and she said "I bet that was your water breaking" She checked to make sure it was clear, because if I could have physically checked I would have. Oh being a NICU nurse makes you crazy when your having a baby. During this 5 minute time frame I asked if she could just check me again because I just feel a lot of pressure in my "booty" (as Charlee would say). She said "Oh, well that's because your a 10 and complete"
I asked her to find my husband who was nowhere to be found. My nurse yelled to another nurse "He's 6'5" and its 3:45 am how can you not find him!!!!" Some other nurse found him thankfully. He didn't really have a clue what he was walking into. He was ordered to call my mom and his mom ASAP because baby is almost here.
Dr. Gallagher was on her way. Gavin set up the video camera on the mattress propped up behind my head so all he had to do was press record. The camera was in reach so we thought we had it under control. We did a few practice pushes with the nurse before Dr. G arrived.
Side note: The nurse left me and Gavin to do 1 practice push. She brought over the mirror because she said it helps with effective pushing. So we used it for that 1 push. After that 1 push I told Gavin to get that thing out of here... He was in agreement! Seriously.... NO, that did not help me, it scarred me. We were laughing too hard to even get a practice push in. The nurse came back in and chuckled when I said "who the hell does that help?"
About 5-6 practice pushes later Dr. G arrived. She was surprised we were ready to have a baby after I just left her office 11hrs ago. This experience was much different compared to when I had Charlee. This was very enjoyable. I had my epidural in and working for about 20 minutes. I just felt contractions in my left butt cheek. I pushed about 4-5 times with Dr. G and she said we will have a baby on the next push. She asked us both last minute predictions. I don't remember what we said because it was time to find out. I remember looking at Gavin's face and he shook his head in disbelief and said "Oh my GOD... its a BOY!" We both started crying. She put him on my chest and I was much calmer this time and just enjoyed looking at him for the first time. I remember he had big lips and eyes like his big sister and lots of dark hair. I held him for a while with Gavin right there the whole time still in shock that he has a son. After a few minutes, the nurse came and took him to give him a bath. I reminded Gavin to get pictures... and then we realized everything happened so fast we forgot to hit record on the video camera, and we didn't have many pictures up until he was getting his bath.
Henry Beau Groninger
Born October 5th @ 4:47am
8 lbs. 7 oz 21.5 inches long.After his bath I held him and nursed him while we waited for family to get there. He was pretty good at nursing just like his big sis. He nursed for a while and I felt great, probably because I was totally numb still from my epidural bolus. I'm not sure she got it all hooked up before we were pushing so I couldn't move really for a while. We just finished up nursing and Gavin's parents called to tell us they were here. Gavin hadn't told them yet that it was a boy until they walked in the room. They were in shock, but extremely excited. They got to hold and cuddle for about an hour before Mom, Greg, Mackenzie, and my baby girl came. When Gavin called them, he told them that they weren't going to make it so not to rush. I remember when Charlee came in. She was in her Big Sister dress and had pig tails and sleepy eyes. Daddy got her all set up on the couch to hold her little brother and meet him for the first time. She was so sweet with him. It was such a great feeling looking at my babies on the couch together. They are going to be best friends.
Keekah was one of the first to hold our little Mr.
He was much bigger than Charlee but he was long and skinny. He had a stork bite (strawberry birth mark) right between his eyes and on his right eye lid. He also had one on the back of his head at the bottom of his hair line, just like Charlee did. I will say this is day one, just a few hours after having him and it was a much faster/easier recovery. I guess your body isn't as traumatized the second time. I was surprised how good I felt. With Charlee I could barely walk to the car when we were going home. Gavin commented a few times that he couldn't believe how much better this time was.
So the next day I showered and changed into my super awesome nursing accessible nightgown and robe so I didn't look all sickly when my girl got there. I moved to the chair and covered the bed with one of our blankets from home. Gavin sat in the bed and I sat in the chair. She was much better with that, because she sat in the chair with me and wanted to hold her brother again. It was such a relief. I was a happy momma, and yes I cried about that too. Bahahaha.